You don’t need big dreams to bond—chatting about tiny, upcoming joys (small expectations) can make a date feel warm and relatable. The trick is to keep it light, share your own, and lean into their excitement.If they say “I’m looking forward to trying that new bakery downtown this weekend,” skip “Nice!” Try: “Oh, I’ve seen photos of their croissants—they look flaky enough to melt! Do you have a go-to pastry you always order first, or do you like to try something new?” Linking their small plan to your own curiosity turns a casual line into a lively back-and-forth.When they mention “My friend’s bringing over their new puppy to hang out,” don’t just say “Cute!” Try: “Puppy visits are the best—last time I met a friend’s puppy, I spent 20 minutes just watching it chase its tail. Do you think you’ll end up doing the ‘puppy voice’ with it, or stay cool?” Teasing gently about your own silly reaction makes their small excitement feel shared.If they admit “I’m excited to rewatch my favorite movie tonight,” don’t say “Fun!” Try: “I have a go-to movie I rewatch when I’m stressed—like, I know every line by heart. Is yours a ‘happy cry’ movie or a ‘laugh-till-you-snort’ one?” Sharing your own small comfort turns their plan into a moment of vulnerability (in a good way).Even about “I’m looking forward to my morning walk tomorrow—weather’s supposed to be nice,” dig into the feeling: “Morning walks when the weather’s good are the best—do you have a favorite route, or do you just wander? I love when I spot random flowers along the way.” Focusing on the tiny joys in their routine shows you care about what makes their days bright.The key: Small expectations are windows into their personality. When you engage with their little upcoming joys—instead of just nodding—you’re saying “Your happiness matters to me.” That kind of attention turns casual chat into a connection that feels genuine, and makes them want to share more of their life with you.